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The One

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What if the one isn't so much someone we love, but someone who loves us just as we need it? What if it's not what they trigger in us (emotions, hormones, anxiety) but what they allow us to trigger in them (how they open up their hearts to us, and move towards us)? What if the one was the one because they made us feel safe, loved, heard, understood, valued, prioritised instead of having us chase, debase, devalue ourselves to reach them? What if the one was the one because they could offer us a place on their priority list, the space next to them without having us fight, beg, cry for it? What if the one is the one who steps up for us, takes up the challenge, helps us grow, holds us when the rose coloured glasses are shattered, and doesn't move away when things get difficult? What if the one is simply the one because they chose us, and made us their ones?

Inner Work

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Inner work is the psychological and spiritual practice of diving deep within oneself, to understand, heal and transform our patterns. Those patterns are often hidden in a part of our psyche, and manifest themselves in ways, which we might not be conscious of. We develop patterns to help us fend our way through life and to protect us. However, those patterns are not useful in all stages of our lives, and need to be released, to implement healthier ones. Inner work can be categorised as: • Ego Work, which can be defined as defense mechanisms that we adopted to protect us. While they worked at certain moments in our lives, when we move towards healing, we need to question their relevance in our paths, and adopt healthier ways of self preservation, like implementing boundaries. • Inner child work refers to the process of identifying our unmet needs from childhood. Those could be not being validated by our parents, not having felt the emotional connection with out family, not being unde

Full Moon Practices

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 Full Moon tonight! Some simple practices to make good use of that energy: ☆ Meditate - sit comfortably or lie down, and imagine your body being filled with moon light, and you becoming as radiant as the moon ☆ Release - perfect time to cut cords with situations/individuals that no longer align with our highest purpose Release stale emotions by crying, or through creative actions ☆ Recharge - spend some time under the moonshine, and allow it to balance your emotions, creativity and feminine energy (men and women all have masculine and feminine energy) ☆ Cleanse your space - tidy up any mess, open windows and doors to let air and energy move. Cleanse energy with sound (chanting or instruments) or smoke (incense, burn herbs such as sage, rosemary, lavender) ☆ Gratitude - uplift your vibration by making a list of all things you are grateful for, and read them to the moon to amplify all your blessings! Hope those practices serve you well. With grace, D πŸ™πŸ’›

Meditation

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 I have been asked why and how to meditate, hence I've put this together, hoping it will be helpful. For a long time meditation was seen as a mystical practice, it brought to us the image of monks or mystics with eyes closed, sitting in the forest, away from civilisation. Recently, we have been flooded by information on different types of meditation, hand gestures or sitting positions, which does not simplify the practice. At its simplest, meditation is a practice to help us connect to ourselves. It allows us to sit in contemplation, either of our thoughts, or of an object. Contemplating our thoughts is simply the act of watching them, without engaging in them. Think of it as being on a highway and watching the traffic go by, instead of getting in a vehicle and go somewhere. Contemplating an object, such as a candle or the moon, or water, is to simply detach from our thoughts and focus on something pleasant. The idea is to minimise the mental chatter. Meditating to connect to

Magic of Salt Water

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  The picture below was taken as in a few words it summarises my feel good factors! Growing up on an island, I have been surrounded and soothed by sea water. Ever since I could remember, the vastness of the sea was my comfort zone, the place I felt safe, the place I felt like home. Whether just by sitting on its shore and listening to waves, or diving deep, the crisp saltiness of the water has remedied so many aches and cleaned so many wounds. The sea, like a loving mother, always welcomed me with arms wide open, sharing the immensity  of her being with me. As I dived deeper within myself, I discovered the wonders of other types of salt water. I grew up believing crying to be dramatic. There came moments, where faced with myself, I had no other options than to open up my heart, and let the salt water throw through me, spilling from my eyes. Just like the sea, it cleansed me, provided me with relief, and rocked me to calmness. Just like the sea, they came as waves, crashing over me, was

Mantra Chanting

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  A mantra can be a word, a phrase or a sound, and has for purpose to create stillness and laser pointed focus in your mind. Mantra chanting helps to create more consciousness by allowing ourselves to become aware of the words that we are uttering, the thoughts that we are replacing, and the changing physical sensations as we move into stillness. Mantras can be in any language you are comfortable with, and necessitates regular practice to create change, both within and without you. It can be used while trying to instill a new routine/habits, or while getting rid of an outdated one, change your emotional state, create more awareness and become more disciplined.   Traditionally, mantra chanting is practised while meditating, but it can also be done while doing mundane chores like cooking, cleaning, working out, especially if it is used to replace a negative thought. In that case, as soon as the negative thought comes up, you can start chanting your mantra, aloud or silently, until the th

Holding Space

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Amidst the busyness of our lives, we take a moment, we pause, we breathe. This is holding space. Holding space is also becoming present of what is weighing us down, and allowing ourselves to just be in the moment, be in the feeling, be attentive.  We switch on our active listening skills, and open our hearts, and offer compassion and space to whatever is coming up in the moment. We allow and accept what is there. We release the need to judge, comment, offer unsolicited help. We slow down, allowing what is to BE, without expecting, without changing. We hold space for ourselves and others by becoming a silent witness. By welcoming vulnerability. By anchoring ourselves in graceful silence. By allowing what is to BE. We hold space for we acknowledge our own, and others' needs to feel seen, heard, accepted, and respected.