Forgiveness

Why forgive?
To release yourself from suffering
To free yourself from the grip of a person/situation 

How to forgive?
Tell yourself that you did the best you could in a situation 
Acknowledge that the other person has shortcomings, and is human, too
Accept the situation how it is, and retain the lessons

Whom to forgive?
In any case, forgive yourself, first, for allowing such situations in your life
Forgive other people by acknowledging their humanity

Recovery:
Set boundaries by telling other people what is no longer acceptable to you, and be firm on those
Raise your standards by not indulging in what has once hurt you

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